Aug 26, 1964---Feb 11, 2023

 

Steven Lee McCarthy, 58, Lenexa KS passed away Saturday, February 11, 2023 at Overland Park Regional Medical Center. Steve wished not to have a service with a potential Celebration of Life at a later date.  The family suggests memorial contributions be made to the American Diabetes Association.   

 

Steve was born August 26, 1964, in Aurora,IL the son of LeRoy and Beatrice McCarthy.  He moved to Lenexa KS in 1995 with his family for his job.  He worked for H.W. Lochner Inc engineering firm, formerly Bucher Willis and Ratliff, for almost 40 years.  He started as a surveyor and worked up to Associate Sr. Network Administrator.  Steve was very committed to his work.  He had a love for music and playing guitar with his band.

 

He was preceded in death by his father LeRoy and brother Paul.  Steve is survived by his wife Jan of 34 years, son Benjamin and spouse Jessica, son Alex, mother Beatrice, his brother David McCarthy and family, and Florida nephews.

 



Condolences

Sadie Robb Feb 15, 2023

Coworker ,Kansas City ,Missouri

I am heartbroken about the passing of Steve. We worked together for 14 years. Very early on, I realized how witty he was, and how much he knew about a wide array of topics, so I always looked forward to being able to chat with him about one thing or another. But he was such a hard worker—always in ‘the zone’ when he walked by—so I had to be strategic in ways I could get him to stop and lollygag for a bit. I’d often plan a weird question to ask him. If I was talking to someone else, I’d start talking about something really bizarre when he came by, so he’d stop, backtrack a few steps, and ask what the heck we were talking about. No matter the topic though, it seemed as though he always contributed a little-known fact about it. I could be talking to him about wildlife hazards at airports, and he’d pause for a moment and say “Did you know that the stork selects which nestlings are most likely survive, and pushes the others out of the nest?” The guy knew something about every topic I’d throw at him. I’d try hard to stump him, but he always came back the next day and tell me something I didn’t know. He was so, so proud of his sons. I was a debater in school, so when Alex got into debate, we talked about it a lot! I judge nowadays, and so when Alex was in high school and needed Steve to judge in some tournaments, we’d compare notes about that year’s debate topic and what crazy things the debaters were arguing during the round. We’d even try to talk to one another at the speed at which the debaters talked during the rounds. When I accepted a job at the FAA, he shared a lot about his dad, and even showed me some photos from his time at the FAA ATC. I know that Steve’s family has lost someone truly special, and I hope they find comfort in the memories they will hold onto forever. He will never be forgotten.

bryan bennett Feb 16, 2023

frield ,Yorkville ,Illinois

I am very sorry to learn of the passing of a good friend, great father, and wonderful husband. It has been a number of years since we last saw each other and I never imagined that a next opportunity might not come. I am devasted Steve left so soon and I feel deeply sorry for the hole his passing left his family and all those who knew him. I will never forget my time spent in Steve's company - we watched the birth of MTV from his parent's home, played very loud music in the basement, and partied in the pool. Steve was the coolest guy I knew back then, and you would never know the depth of that coolness without getting to know him. Through the years I came know his parents, his happiness with his job, marrying a very wonderful and caring Jan, and achieving his dream of family of his own and being a father to their sons. Thank you, Steve, for introducing me to so many cool music artists that I still enjoy to this day, all the hanging out being silly, going to concerts, and you just being you. You are a different sort like me, and I hope all those around you found that attraction, felt the coolness, and enjoyed your company. I am very sad you are gone. Condolences to Beatrice, Jan, Ben, and Alex.

Raymond Cooper Feb 17, 2023

Co-Worker - Friend ,Lenexa ,Kansas

I have known and worked with Steve for almost 30 years. During that time, he was a mentor, confidante and cohort and I'm proud to call him my friend. I will miss him.

Pamela Runyon Feb 17, 2023

Friend ,Raymore ,Missouri

Steve is known to me by knowing and working with his wife, Jan. Here is what I know about Steve because of the things Jan would share all the time over the years from their life together: Steve loved Jan and was not afraid to show it to her with simple, shared experiences, celebrating her birthday or their anniversary with a special outing even when staying home might have been his own preference. He would go the extra mile to plant flowers Jan could see from her office window at home, include their much loved sons in their plans whenever either son wanted to be included and encourage Jan to take breaks from work. Steve loved his own mother and did his best to be supportive of her needs while keeping his strong work ethic fully intact at a job he actually liked. He was a helper and friend to others when he had something to offer to their need. Most of all-Steve was a family man that loved his little group of people and expanded that circle to include a daughter when his son married. So, I did not know Steve personally, but from all I have heard about him through the years, I feel like I knew a very fine man, and I know he'll be missed. God be with you, Jan, and with your family members??.

Sam Booth Feb 17, 2023

Co-worker ,Chicago ,Illinois

In my 6 years knowing Steve, he was always very kind to me and taught me so much about networking — something we both enjoyed and liked talking about together. He always encouraged me to succeed and was a great mentor to me. I really looked up to him and hoped that one day I could accumulate as much knowledge as he had. When we did get a chance to talk about our lives outside of work, I could always tell that he loved his family very much and was so proud of his sons. I will always remember Steve as kind, genuine, and one of the smartest people I’ve ever met. My deepest and sincerest condolences to his family and friends

Roy Bruce Feb 19, 2023

Coworker ,Raleigh ,North Carolina

I had the pleasure of working with Steve at Lochner. Dedicated is the best word that aligns for me relative to Steve and work. Beyond that though was an intense desire and thirst for knowledge and understanding. He took on challenges with a vigor to identify the root cause of the matter and to find effective ways to resolve the situation. Steve was always a joy to be with as he brought a fun spirit to all encounters. He was a great guy and will be deeply missed at work and by those that worked closest with him. My condolences and prayers are with Jan and family as they face the days ahead. May you find peace and joy in the memories that you made with Steve.

Roxane Dill Feb 20, 2023

Jan, I am so very sorry for your loss. I can only imagine the difficult time you are going through and you and your family are in my prayers.

Jane England Mar 01, 2023

Co-worker ,Blue Springs ,Missouri

Jan, I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I can only offer this advice-breathe. That is all you have to do right now. The pain will lessen, and one day, the loss will become bearable. Sleep, be very nice to Jan. Use your caregiver instincts to care for yourself. I know that is what Steve would want you to do. I wish you peace....?????

John and Christie Caudillo Mar 08, 2023

Neighbor ,Lenexa ,Kansas

I loved to see Steve taking care of the lawn or just going to get the mail. We would waive to each other and acknowledge that we were part of great neighborhood. I could see on his face how proud he was to be where he was. Rest in peace.