Mary A. "Lanie" McCoy, Age :26
Mar 16,1994---May 06,2020

Mary Alaine “Lanie” McCoy, 26, passed away peacefully in her husband’s arms, surrounded by the loving voices of her mother and sisters on May 6, 2020. She was born on March 16, 1994 to Mary “Mud” Brown Leek and David Leek, the youngest of the three Leek girls, following Elizabeth “Ellie” and Anna. Lanie would grow up in Leawood and graduate Shawnee Mission East in 2012 and the University of Kansas School of Journalism in 2016. After graduation, she would join her future husband, Hal McCoy, in Austin, TX. 

Lanie found much joy in music and dancing. Her favorite musician was James Taylor, who she saw in concert four times, twice in Kansas City with family, once in Barcelona on her 21st birthday and finally with Hal in Austin.

Lanie viewed food as an opportunity to share love and an experience with her family and friends. She prided herself on being a great sous chef and cooking DJ. She kept a list of local restaurants to explore and especially enjoyed going out for seafood.

Lanie found her greatest joy in the water. She swam competitively from a young age through high school and then spent three summers coaching at The Carriage Club. Her fondest memories of water were spent with her family on paddle boards at Walloon Lake in Michigan.

Lanie shared her love with intention and was loved in return by the multitude. She possessed big blue eyes which demonstrated her desire for making meaningful connections with others. With this gift, Lanie made and kept countless friends throughout her life. She loved to meet new people and took great pride in the fact that she introduced herself to Hal at KU in the fall of 2014.

In Austin, Lanie and Hal spoke often of their plans to get a dog, marry, move closer to family and have children. Hal eventually surprised her with a white and gray Great Dane, Dale, in March 2019. That same week, Hal picked out Lanie’s engagement ring. Their plans were accelerated the following month with Lanie’s leukemia diagnosis. Lanie was admitted to The University of Kansas Health System on April 25, 2019 and Hal proposed to her bedside that night. Two days later, on April 27th, they were married in the Patient and Family Resource Center on her floor with a small gathering of family.

Lanie’s primary ambition in life was to help people and she achieved that goal. Her battle with leukemia gave her a new mission; she inspired countless registrations on the national marrow donor registry and tens of thousands of dollars in donations for leukemia research. In February of 2020, the first of many donors Lanie inspired would give their marrow at a children’s hospital in Fort Worth, TX.

Lanie was resolute in her confrontation with leukemia until the end, but she did eventually find peace with her passing. She was comforted knowing she would join her grandparents, MaryAnn and Joseph Brown and Carolee and Louis James Leek, and her dear friend, Erin Langhofer, in heaven. Her greatest concern was to leave behind her husband, Hal McCoy III; mother, Mud Leek; sisters, Elizabeth Murray (Tyler) and Anna Ludington (Charlie); her niece and goddaughter, Lucy Ludington; in-laws, Hal, Mindy, Sam and Mary McCoy; and countless other family and friends whom she held dear.

In lieu of flowers, her husband and family would suggest that people register on the Be The Match bone marrow registry or make contributions to the Leukemia & Lymphoma Society through this year’s campaign in her honor ( or venmo: @LLSTriumph). 

A private family mass and burial will be held Tuesday, May 19, 2020.  A celebration of life with friends and family will be held at another time. 


Susan delgado May 16 ,2020

Friend ,KCMO ,Missouri

Rest in piece.. you will forever live in our hearts...

Jack Miller May 17 ,2020

Friend ,Wichita ,Kansas

My condolences go out to your entire family. I will never forget the moments at the Jayhawk Cafe with Lanie and her KKG crew. They were never dull and always filled with laughter, dancing, and memories. May she forever rest in paradise and be your guardian angel. Much Love, Jack Miller

Shirley Meissner May 17 ,2020

Friend ,Wichits ,Kansas

Hal, my heart hurts for you during this time of loss. Though I never had the pleasure of meeting in person your lovely Lanie, the window into her life that you willingly shared with us allowed us to recognize the incredible person she is and was. Her memory will be seen in views of water and sounds of James Taylor. Her love for you was evident every single day. We have been touched by your life together. Shirley Meissner

Stuart & Helen Nickelson May 17 ,2020

Friends ,Seattle ,Washington

I’ll always remember meeting Lanie when we were both walking our laps at UWMC. She had the most beautiful smile, just drew you in. Our hearts go out to you, Hal, and all of her family and friends.

Kelly Bride May 17 ,2020

neighbor ,Prairie Village ,Kansas

I'm so sad to see this today. I remember your 3 girls playing in the yard next-door to us on Alhambra and all the friends they had at your house during their SME days. Such a fun time in all your lives. Prayers to you all.

James & Casey Allen May 17 ,2020


Rest In Peace, Lanie. We will never forget you. Our thoughts and prayers are with your whole family. Love, James (“Jasmine”) and Casey Allen

Katherine Killen Hall May 17 ,2020

Friend of Hal and Mindy ,Westlake Village ,California

My deepest condolences to you all. I have been praying for Lanie and am so sorry her earthly journey has ended. I will continue to pray for your comfort and peace.

Rob Sweatt May 17 ,2020

Friend of Ellie Leek ,Mission Hills ,Kansas

Ellie and Family, My deepest condolences. I did not know Lanie personally but know her sister Ellie well. Through Ellie, I was able to keep up with Lanie’s fight. Her strength and courage as she fought this awful disease was inspirational. Ellie, you too have been an inspiration to me. You are strong. Lanie was lucky to have you as her sister and I know you felt the same about her. God bless to all of you. Rob Sweatt

Jenifer May 17 ,2020

Friend of the McCoy Family ,Wichita ,Kansas

I did not know Lanie but have known the McCoy family for many years. I was Hal’s Spanish teacher and high school administrator. To know the McCoy family is to love them and though I never had the privilege of meeting Lanie, she too has been surrounded in my love and prayers. My thoughts and prayers remain with Lanie, her family and friends.

Diane and Bob Garrett May 17 ,2020

Friends of the Family ,Leawood ,Kansas

Dear Mud, Our hearts ache for you, Ellie, Anna and Hal in the loss of your beloved Lanie. Please know that you are lovingly in our thoughts and prayers. May God bring you peace and strength. Tina, Diane and Bob Garrett

Jeff and Gina (Cotton)Richardson n May 17 ,2020

Friend ,Edmond ,Oklahoma

My family would like to extend our deepest condolences to the family. God bless you all.

Anne Leslie Aronfeld Bellamy May 18 ,2020

Friends of the McCoy’s ,Ponte Verda ,Florida

We would like to express our sorrow and condolences to you and your family. May you be comforted by the outpouring of love surrounding you at this time. Thank you for sharing with all of us on FB; I feel blessed that we got to have a glimpse of Yours and Lanie’s beautiful life. May she Rest In Peace 💕

Carol Holstead May 18 ,2020

Dearest David and Mudd, I am heartbroken. I saw a notice of Lanie's obituary in the j-school's Monday Memo just now. Lanie was a beautiful, luminous human and I am so deeply sorry for your, and the world's, loss. Much love to you and your family. Carol

Sarah Blackman May 18 ,2020

family friend ,Mission Hills ,Kansas

Dear Mud and family, Words cannot express how our hearts break for all of you. We have been following Lanie's journey from afar, and have prayed and prayed for the family's well being and solace. We remember Lanie's amazing smile even when she was "flying" on the cheer pyramid. She was so easy going and such a joy to be around. She will be greatly missed by so many. Sarah, Art, Lindy and Worth Blackman

Maureen Stout May 19 ,2020

Friend ,Wichita ,Kansas

I am so very sorry that Lanie was called for her eternal rest with Jesus so early. I am so very proud of Hal Wesley for helping to make her last years so wonderful and so loved. Every time I met Lanie I went away with the thought, That is the sweetest girl I have ever met! And it was fully genuine. I am so very sorry for all her family and close friends because I know you must feel such a gap of that sweetness in your lives. But I know she is still there with you all, and with Jesus in heaven. Prayers for peace in your hearts.

Meredith (Wessely) Hetchler May 25 ,2020


Rest In Peace, sweet Lanie. You were a bright light in this world and will be missed. My thoughts and prayers are with your family.

Laurie Dressman Oct 16 ,2020

Friend ,Prairie Village ,Kansas

To the family, Alex just let me know about Lanie’s passing this year. What a beautiful and sweet girl. I have such great memories of her smiling face and seeing her run down a soccer field. I know she must have faced this with much courage and bravery - she comes from hardy stock in Mud and Dave. I know your family would have all pulled together to be a bright light for each other and for Hal. Please know that sweet Lanie will always stay a face of kindness in my memory and your family will be in my prayers as you face the years ahead without her. I know you will draw strength from each other. Alex and her husband had “Something In The Way She Moves” by James Taylor played at their wedding. I’m sure that song would be fitting for Lanie too. Love, Laurie and Marty