Mar 23, 1948---Dec 01, 2022

Mary Francis Fencl passed away peacefully, steadfast in her faith, surrounded by her family on December 1, 2022, at Menorah Medical Center. She was born in Summit, New Jersey on March 23, 1948, the daughter of David and Elizabeth Secunda. She is survived by her husband of 43 years, Douglas Fencl, her sons Matthew and Christopher Fencl, her brothers James Secunda and his wife Deborah, and John Secunda and his wife Patty, her sister, Leanne Peters and Leanne’s five children - Gunnar, David, Christina, Alexandra, and Veronica.

Mary was raised in Summit, New Jersey, and as a child, lived four years in Mumbai, India with her family. She is a graduate of Westmont College in Santa Barbara, California, and received an MBA from Thunderbird School of Global Management in Phoenix, Arizona. She served as a Special Agent in the Federal Bureau of Investigation from 1976 to 1983, working in the field of Foreign Counter-Intelligence in New York City. She retired from the FBI in 1983 to focus on motherhood after the birth of her sons, Matthew and Christopher.

Her Christian faith was the bedrock of her life, with years of devoted study in various Bible classes, including CBS - Community Bible Study. She also was active both as a Stephen’s minister and as a hospice volunteer. She received her certification as a Yoga instructor, opening a studio in her home, modifying her instruction to be a Christ-centered practice. In 2008, Mary converted to Catholicism, after reading the autobiography of St. Teresa of Avila, the founder of numerous Carmelite convents in Spain in the 1500s. She was confirmed by Msgr. Tom Tank at Church of the Ascension, and received her first communion on Easter Vigil at the University of Notre Dame, where her son Christopher was an undergraduate.

Mary shined the light of Christ to all those who knew her. Her life was an example of authentically living the virtues of faith, hope, and charity - she will be sorely missed.  She left those she loved with the final gift of her last smiling words, “All will be well.”

Visitation will be 9:00 AM, Funeral Mass at 10:00 AM followed by a reception at the Church of the Ascension on Monday, December 12, 2022 at 9510 West 127th, Overland Park, Kansas. In lieu of flowers the family suggests memorial contributions to Church of the Ascension or Catholic Charities of NE Kansas.



Condolences

Pam Morrison Dec 05, 2022

Friend ,Leawood ,Kansas

For Doug and all the family, I send heartfelt condolences. Mary Francis was so thoughtful and kind. She was very good to me. But, her deep reflections about faith and people so impressed me. I remember her wonderful hospitality with such gratefulness. God comfort all of you.

Francis Hanna Dec 05, 2022

Longtime friend ,Kansas City ,Missouri

Doug, I just learned of your loss and share in your grief because Joanne and I long have counted the two of you among our most cherished friends. We can only imagine a world without your precious, saintly, lovely wife. She truly was a uniquely kind, lovable, remarkable soul who without doubt, being absent from the body, is present with the Lord! Our deepest and sincere sympathy for you and the boys will be motivating much prayer for you in the coming days. Keep remembering that you do not suffer as one without hope because your citizenship is with her in heaven from which you can trust to soon see her again as you meet her in the air when the trumpet sounds and the dead in Christ will rise first!

Pauline Secunda Newell Dec 05, 2022

Cousin ,Shrewsbury ,New Jersey

Dear Doug, Matthew, Christopher, LeAnne & family, John, Jim and all who loved Mary Francis: I am so very sorry for your loss. My dear cousin Mary Francis, full of light and warmth, always thoughtful and loving, will be missed beyond measure. May she rest in peace. Love to all, Pauline

Stacy and Scott Winkler Dec 05, 2022

Neighbor ,Overland Park, ,Kansas

I know God has a new angel. What a lovely neighbor and friend I have been blessed to have over the last 20 years. Mary Francis will be missed so very much. Seeing her walk the neighborhood daily, watching cars of women come to her yoga classes and answering her Old Testament questions as she sought answers to her bible study questions. She continued to be a life long learner, always helpful and truly wanting to know how others were. Although she lived directly across the street it wasn’t uncommon for her to mail me a card or write me a letter and mail it. She would often call to tell me that she and Doug were headed out of town and would I mind keeping an eye on the house. She was and will always be the kindest lady who made Halloween special by giving out large candy bars to my children, sharing zucchini bread, or inviting my children over to listen and watch on her player piano. My life is richer because of her.

Denny Baginski Dec 05, 2022

Former Neighbor ,Fort Myers ,Florida

Mary was a fantastic friend and neighbor. Always smiling and a positive force in this world. She will be sorely missed!

Susan Nitsch Dec 05, 2022

Friend ,Leawood ,Kansas

Dear Doug, Matt, and Chris: Please know we are thinking of you, and remembering Mary and the many lives she graciously touched and brightened. My deepest condolences on your loss.

Bita lammon Dec 05, 2022

Friend & neighbor ,Overland Park ,Kansas

I have known Mary since my son was 3 years old at jazzercise class. It was her smiles that draw my attention to her. Then i found out that she is my neighbor. We walked & pray occasionally together & also she was in my yoga class. She invited me to her house for bible study because I realized as a young Christian I needed to grow more . I learned a lot in her bible study classes & later on when she got her yoga certificate she invited me to her house & we did one to one yoga.she always asked me what she can pray for me & never talked about herself. It was always about other people. I’m so sad & heart broken just thinking I’m not able to see her or talk to her . She was a remarkable & amazing woman.I feel like I lost my best friend. My condolences to Doug & Christopher Matthew.

Kara Farage Dec 05, 2022

Friend ,Traverse City ,Michigan

Doug, Matthew, and Christopher, My deepest condolences. Mary Francis was one of the kindest, generous, and joyful women I have ever met. Her love for you all was abundantly clear, as was her love for the Lord. My life was richly blessed by having her as my RCIA sponsor and I will forever be grateful for her support, friendship and role model of faith. She will be greatly missed by all who knew her. May God bless you all, Kara Farage

Kathy Saint Drown Dec 06, 2022

friend from H.D.A. high school ,Asheville ,North Carolina

Mary and I reconnected these past 10 years making me realize again what I had loved in her back in our high school days. I am deeply saddened to get this news. Hard to even write my thoughts. Suffice it to say, she made the world a better place and made me want to love the Lord more. The picture of her that you posted portrays the selfless enthusiasm she always showed in those around her. We can all learn from her in that regard. It was such a privilege to call her my friend. Kathy

Brendan Sneegas Dec 06, 2022

Friend ,Merriam ,Kansas

There's something so special about Godparents. When we are young parents seeking answers, confidence and faithful guidance, there was nothing like Tuesday nights at your house. I was "good" at playing the trumpet and you trusted me to teach Matthew, while you held and prayed for our daughter. You celebrated every milestone and accomplishment like she was your own. Your home was always open for a home cooked meal. You looked me deep in the eyes to hear an answer to a question. The child you prayed for is now strong, confident, married with a beautiful child of her own. Rest in peace sweet, sweet, Mary Francis. You were an angel then, I can't imagine your wings, now.

Pam Fernandez Dec 06, 2022

Cousin to Doug ,Denver ,Colorado

To Doug, Matthew, and Chris, My husband and I are so saddened that Mary passed much before her time. She was such a bright light, and it was reflected in the kind words she wrote in the Christmas cards she sent. I grieve for you three special men in her life as you all seek a way to navigate through this loss of one so dear to you. Know that you will all be lifted up in prayer for peace and comfort that only God and your collective memories can bring.

Chris and Deborah Budke Dec 06, 2022

Friend ,Overland Park ,Kansas

Doug, Deborah and I are so sorry for you and your boy's loss. All of you will remain in our prayers.

Ron & Fernanda Smigh Dec 06, 2022

Longtime friends ,Overland Park ,Kansas

Doug, Chris and Matt, Fernanda and I are deeply saddened by the passing of Mary Francis. The light of her effervescent, fastidiously fresh personality and always cheerful assistance to others reminds us that angels, indeed, do walk among us. Please be assured of our devoted Christian friendship and love.

Cathy Dec 06, 2022

Worked at Hospice ,Overland Park ,Kansas

Mary Francis was so kind and generous as a volunteer, a very special person!

Robert Gregory Fernandez Dec 07, 2022

Friend of Jim Secunda ,Bronxville ,New York

Bobby and Linda send their condolences to the family of Mary Fencl. Jim although I never met your sister Mary, I can tell how wonderful she must have been just by knowing you. It reflect the best part of your family and the loving way you were all raised. Please take comfort in your memories as you grieve. Sincerely Bobby and Linda

Lynda Wambles Dec 07, 2022

Dear Friend and Sister in the Lord ,Murfreesboro ,Tennessee

Dearest Doug, Matt and Chris, I cannot begin to even think of how to write this message. Mary Francis and yourselves were such dear friends to me and my beloved Byron (with the Lord in 2018) over the years when we lived in Overland Park and continuing on when we moved to Florida in 2008. Mary Francis and I carried on our friendship through cards, e-mails, etc. and only last year did I drop the communication ball. This notice of her passing shocked me as being her "older sister in the Lord," she should be writing a condolence for me. If there was ever an angel on earth it was Mary Francis. My love and prayers are with you as you go through the sad time of saying goodbyes. I loved her final words "all will be well." Mary Francis was like Enoch, she walked with the Lord and they were so close that He decided to have her there in Heaven with Him in person. With my love, prayers, and deepest heartfelt sympathy to all of you who mourn her passing, yet rejoice that we shall see her again in the great return of our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ. Lynda Wambles

VIRGINIA A PRIMACK Dec 07, 2022

Close Friend ,Lake Forest ,Illinois

I am just heartbroken to lose my dearest friend, confidant, super supporter, and sister in faith..."Maggie" was the best roommate a girl could have...and from those early days our friendship just got stronger. She was my "go to" gal for all the ups and downs that life brought...I know I have a sister in Heaven now...but oh how I will miss her. My deepest sympathy and prayers go out to all the Fencl and Secunda family...

Lynda Gray Dec 08, 2022

Ascension Catechist Youth Ministry Team ,Overland Park ,Kansas

My sincerest condolences to the Fencl family on the passing of Mary Francis. She was my Aide when I taught Year 1 Confirmation classes at Ascension. Mary Francis had a way of connecting with everyone she met. The kids, including my daughter, were drawn to her and enjoyed hearing about her faith journey. She was a bright light to all who had the pleasure to spend time with her and, personally, gave me the gentle nudge to continue serving the youth of Ascension through Youth Ministry. She embodied Saint Teresa of Calcutta's message of "Do small things with Great love." Heaven is shining a little brighter with her a part of it. May God comfort you during your time of grief.

Lynda Gray Dec 08, 2022

Ascension Catechist Youth Ministry Team ,Overland Park ,Kansas

My sincerest condolences to the Fencl family on the passing of Mary Francis. She was my Aide when I taught Year 1 Confirmation classes at Ascension. Mary Francis had a way of connecting with everyone she met. The kids, including my daughter, were drawn to her and enjoyed hearing about her faith journey. She was a bright light to all who had the pleasure to spend time with her and, personally, gave me the gentle nudge to continue serving the youth of Ascension through Youth Ministry. She embodied Saint Teresa of Calcutta's message of "Do small things with Great love." Heaven is shining a little brighter with her a part of it. May God comfort you during your time of grief.

Bev Campbell Dec 08, 2022

Friend ,Greenbrier

With sincere sympathy for the deep loss of your precious Mary. I am heartbroken for you and for all of us who knew her. Fond memories of times with her when our boys were young. She was a faithful friend and encourager to the very end. Praying for you. God bless

Beth and Chad Elling Dec 08, 2022

Friends ,Scottsdale ,Arizona

Dearest Doug, Matthew and Christopher Chad and I are so very sorry for the loss of our precious Mary, she was one of a kind. Kindness was what Mary made of, her joy and love she shared with everyone who knew her, she was totally unselfish and always wanting to help others. I cannot say enough about your wife and the boys mother, she loved you with all her heart and soul. I wish we could be at your side right now but always remember we hold all of you in our hearts. God Bless You, Love Beth & Chad

Alex Peters Nerbrand Dec 11, 2022

Niece ,London

Mary’s laugh always engaged; her beautiful smile lifted the room. To top it off, this lovely individual was full of goodness as well as a little cheeky, particularly in a competitive, game environment. Being a number two with an older sister and younger brothers, my aunt Mary invariably understood. She was ever conscious of others and generous in affirmations. Her gift to create understanding, gently refer to another view and highlight our luck when hurdles are temporary was ever valued. Her kindness affected so many and encourages us to pay it forward - though I seriously doubt I could come close on writing cards; will figure it out another way. She used emojis prior to phones 😊 and had a real travel bug because I have fond memories with her in NY, New Orleans, Phoenix, LA, Falsterbo, London and Kiawah (super treat for our boys) as well as postcards from Jerusalem, countless other spots on this intriguing globe. Strong sense of adventure, (evidenced also by her career choice which led her to the love of her life and wonderful sons) but suspect most of her travel had the gracious purpose of connecting to those she held dear. Her love surrounds you, Doug, Matt and Chris, hold tight.

Joyce & Phil Dec 11, 2022

Friend ,Overland Park ,Kansas

Doug, Matt & Chris: We are so saddened but feel so positively that our sweet Mary Francis is in our Lord’s arms with His mother Mary rejoicing to embrace her. She was a true evangelizer and Touched so many. God be with you as you grieve but know that many love/d her❤️❣️❣️ Joyce & Phil

Joyce & Phil Dec 12, 2022

Friend ,Overland Park ,Kansas

Doug, Matt & Chris: We are so saddened but feel so positively that our sweet Mary Francis is in our Lord’s arms with His mother Mary rejoicing to embrace her. She was a true evangelizer and Touched so many. God be with you as you grieve but know that many love/d her❤️❣️❣️ Joyce & Phil

Services

Event:
Visitation
Location:
Church of the Ascension
Address:
9510 West 127th Street
City:
Overland Park
State:
Kansas
Zip Code:
66213
Date:
Dec 12, 2022
Time:
9:00 AM
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Event:
Funeral Mass
Location:
Church of the Ascension
Address:
9510 West 127th Street
City:
Overland Park
State:
Kansas
Zip Code:
66213
Date:
Dec 12, 2022
Time:
10:00 AM
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